by Andrew Weeden | McKenzie Friend based in Cambridge and Ely A concern has been raised about the safety and welfare of your Child. You have been told that you should enable safeguarding and stop contact with the other parent. What should you do, and where do you stand legally?
When parents have separated, contact can be challenging and emotionally painful for the children and their non-resident parent.
It is important to make every contact count, and deliver what your child needs most.
It can be very hard to detach feelings about separation, divorce and the life thereafter from dealing with issues in the family Court.
It is natural, for both parents to bring in their historic issues and want some kind of restorative justice. Unfortunately, in cases which involve children and shared care arrangements, the adults are a secondary concern to the needs of the juniors.
It is the time of year where lawyers make most of their money. The January onslaught of divorce case applications. Christmas is an evocative time of year. It can be a time of joy, but for many people, it is a time of abject misery. And with New Year resolutions, many marriages are brought to a close. Most of those marriages have been unhappy for a great deal of time and the New Year seems good time to face up to life beyond.
Case: “My ex has stopped me having any contact with our children. We divorced a few years ago and I immediately had a mental breakdown. The end of my marriage was very traumatic and abusive. I could not stop crying. I felt worthless and completely useless. I admit that I was not capable of acting like a good parent. But when it came to Court, they overlooked the abuses I had suffered and zoomed in on my mental health and my ex got full custody. I am supposed to have regular overnights and contact but I am not getting any of it. Now I can’t even speak with my children. My ex says they don’t want anything to do with me. I am so low. I feel judged and the whole process has made me completely anxious. Nothing is helping. What can I do?”